“So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” (1 Corinthians 10:31)

What is the most important quality that you would like to have in your life? Of all the qualities to choose

from, there is one transcending quality that must be at the top of your list. That one exceeding quality is

the glory of God. If your desire to glorify God is the chief aim of your life, there is a fantastic chance you

will experience a meaningful and satisfying marriage, even when your spouse does not meet your


There is nothing that transcends this God-centered quality in His image bearers. If your chief aim in life is

to spread the fame of God, you can be comforted by the fact that even sin or sinful temptations will not

overcome your dogged and unflinching determination to be like Jesus everywhere you go (Ephesians


And whenever sin does make its advances, your habit of glorifying God will win the war against sin’s

intent. When the guardian of your heart is the glory of the Lord, you’re in the best place to be a good

friend, a great lover, and a wonderful spouse. There are many tools available to help you more effectively

glorify God. Here are three of those tools:

Passion – Everyone is passionate about something, and that “something” defines them. Nobody lacks

passion. If you look long enough, you will find the thing that makes you emote.

Desires to have a great job, rear spiritual children, and build a secure future are good things, but when it

comes to the Lord, there must be a preeminent longing for His glory that is so high that all other “loves”

look like hate by comparison (Luke 14:26-27).

Repentance – Nobody has been able to pull off perfection, but Jesus. Your lack of complete sanctification

means you and your spouse are imperfect sinners on your best days. Your spouse has sinned against you

and God, and you have done similarly.

You do not have to be discouraged by this if your chief aim is to glorify God. Glorifying God does not

imply perfection. Living a perfect life is contrary to the Bible—for all have sinned (Romans 3:23), and if

anyone says they don’t sin, they are liars (1 John 1:7-10). But do not fear; there is good news.

A person whose primary goal is to glorify God has a great backup plan because that person is a repenting

person. Though you will have lapses in judgment, as experienced by doing something unkind to your

spouse, you will respond quickly with a broken-hearted confession (Psalm 51:17), and a request for


Community – A God-impassioned, repenting person will seek similar associations. Let me state it another

way: regardless of who you are, you will find your kind. The question then becomes, “What kind of

people are you pursuing?”

The LORD wired you with a herd mentality, which is why you seek community. You long for a

community because God made you in His image; you reflect the image of the original community

(Genesis 1:26-27). You can take the measure of an individual by assessing their associations—the things

they try to fill their lives, and nobody surrounds themselves with things they do not like.

Time to Reflect:

Does your desire to glorify God give you the wisdom and perseverance to spread the fame of God even

when your marriage is not meeting your expectations?

How can you more effectively glorify God in your marriage, especially when things do not go your way?